Overcome Anxiety with Bibi Onsori for Tech Professionals: My healing journey

Working in cybersecurity and technology can feel stressful and overwhelming. The fast pace and high demands often lead to anxiety, which is why mental health is just as important as technical skills. Choosing to address my own anxiety helped me become a stronger leader and a better person both at work and at home.

Meeting BB Anzari, an anxiety coach, changed my approach to managing these feelings. Her support helped me understand why anxiety showed up in my life and gave me the tools to overcome it, instead of just trying to cope. This journey has inspired me to share what I’ve learned about healing and turning anxiety into a strength.

Key Takeaways

• Anxiety can be addressed and even transformed with the right guidance.

• Understanding the root causes helps create lasting change.

• Coaching and a focused program support a more balanced life.

Effects of Anxiety in Cybersecurity and Tech

Common Mental Struggles for Tech Professionals

Working in cybersecurity and technology can feel overwhelming. The pressure to solve problems fast and keep up with constant changes makes it easy to feel stressed. Many of us get used to this and start to think that high stress and anxiety are normal in our everyday lives.

It wasn't obvious to me at first that I was struggling, but over time I saw that the worry and fear were constant. I noticed that other people didn't always feel the same amount of pressure or fear. This helped me realize these feelings were not something I just had to accept.

Signs include:

• Feeling worried or afraid a lot, even about small things

• Trouble relaxing or sleeping

• Being scared to make mistakes

• Having thoughts that seem stuck or keep repeating

Risks of Ignoring Stress and Anxiety

If you ignore these feelings, they can get worse over time. When I tried to push my feelings aside, I found that it just made things harder at work and at home. Stress can make it difficult to focus and take care of responsibilities.

Not dealing with anxiety can also affect relationships with coworkers, friends, and family. It may make daily tasks feel huge and can even cause people to burn out or leave their jobs.

Here’s a quick table that shows some results of not caring for your mental health:

Ignored Symptoms Possible Outcomes Constant worry Burnout Lack of rest Poor work performance Avoiding problems Strained relationships

Why Managing Anxiety Helps Your Career

Learning how to manage my anxiety had a big impact on my professional life. When I started to work on my mindset and find better ways to cope, I became a better leader and a stronger team member.

Addressing my anxiety gave me more focus and helped me handle challenges calmly. It allowed me to grow in my career, and I found it easier to work with others, make decisions, and enjoy my achievements.

• Improves work quality: Better focus and fewer mistakes

• Supports leadership: More confidence to guide others

• Helps teamwork: Improved communication and trust

Taking care of my mental health was not just helpful—it was essential for reaching my goals in cybersecurity and technology.

How I Became an Anxiety Support Coach

Facing My Own Fears and Worries

For a long time, I didn’t realize the fear and worry I lived with was actually anxiety. I was always nervous, often believing I had a serious illness. I used to think it was normal to worry this much about health until I noticed others didn’t feel the same way. This realization made me look deeper into what was happening with me.

Finding Real Solutions That Work

I wanted answers, so I went to over 20 therapists. Although talking helped, I never truly felt better. Then, I met an older woman in Vancouver who changed everything. She helped me see that my thoughts and feelings came from things in my past, especially from when I was very young. By working on these memories, I started to heal. The process took four years, but it showed me that real healing is possible, not just managing symptoms.

From Struggling Myself to Helping Others

After I overcame my own battles with anxiety, I realized I wanted to help others do the same. I took what I had learned—from my healing journey and all the programs and seminars I attended—and created my own way to support people. My program is now designed to help others find relief in just eight weeks, compared to the years it took for me. I understand how it feels to be skeptical, but with patience and trust, real change can happen. I’ve now dedicated myself to supporting others who want to break free from anxiety, especially professionals who face constant stress.

Finding the Main Sources of Anxiety

How Early Experiences and Choices Shape Anxiety

When I look back at my own life and when I work with others, I see that anxiety often starts young. Most of the decisions and ideas about who we are form between ages five and nine. During these early years, we can develop fears or patterns that carry into adulthood. Many of us don’t even notice that we made these choices because they can happen subconsciously.

• Early worries can become habits.

• Childhood experiences may lead us to believe the world is unsafe.

• We may not realize others don't feel the same way until we're older.

These patterns can become so normal that we accept them as part of who we are.

Why Your Way of Thinking Matters

Mindset is critical in both feeling and overcoming anxiety. I used to believe anxiety ran my life, but I learned that how we think about anxiety makes a huge difference. If you see yourself as someone who is always anxious, you start to expect anxiety in every situation. But when I changed my mindset, things shifted.

Old Approach New Mindset "Anxiety controls me." "I can change my thoughts." "This is just who I am." "I can learn new patterns." "Nothing will help." "There is a way forward."

A change in thinking wasn’t instant. It happened slowly as I worked on new steps and repeated them until they felt natural.

Where Traditional Methods Fall Short

I tried many different therapies and saw over 20 therapists because I wanted to heal. Most traditional methods focus on managing anxiety instead of fixing the root cause.

Some reasons these methods may not help everyone:

• They may only offer short-term relief.

• They often do not go deep enough to reach the original source of anxiety.

• Many focus on coping instead of healing.

While therapy has value, I discovered real change happened when I worked on the core beliefs and decisions from my early life and learned to adjust my mindset. That’s when I truly started to heal.

How I Help People Move Beyond Anxiety

A Different Way To Support Healing

My program does not focus on lifelong management of anxiety. Instead, I guide people to find the roots of their fear so they can move forward. My work is based on what actually led me to my own healing. I don’t just offer theory—I build on what has worked for me and my clients. My methods invite people to look back at their past, often between ages 5 and 9, to understand where certain feelings began. This is the stage when powerful thoughts and habits take shape. My process is short, usually about eight weeks, and is designed for lasting change.

Steps Toward Real Relief

I use a simple, step-by-step approach. It is not about attending endless seminars or managing anxiety forever. Instead, I guide clients through:

• Identifying the original decision or moment that sparked their anxiety

• Looking at how old habits and beliefs keep anxiety in place

• Using mindset tools to slowly change how they think and feel

• Practicing these new habits every day, with my support

The changes can be slow at first. Many start out skeptical, but over a few weeks, they begin to notice differences. Week by week, it becomes clear that they are able to move past old fears.

What Lasts After The Program

People who finish my program often say they feel like new people. They find relief from being trapped by worry and fear. The biggest shift is that they are no longer driven by anxiety. They trust themselves to live and lead with confidence. Some say that what once seemed impossible—feeling calm and in control—is now real for them.

Before My Program After My Program Lifelong anxiety habits New, calmer ways of thinking Doubt and worry Trust in their own progress Managing symptoms Moving beyond the need to cope

Channeling Anxiety Into Strength

Changing Your Perspective For Growth

I learned that the way I think shapes how I experience anxiety. When I believed anxiety was part of who I was, it controlled me. But once I started to see it as something I could change, my life shifted. I realized many of my fears came from choices or beliefs I made when I was very young. Understanding this gave me a new sense of hope.

I worked hard to challenge those old beliefs. This meant being open to the idea that I could heal, not just manage my anxiety. As my mindset changed, I felt more in control and much stronger.

Using Anxiety To Become A Better Leader

For a long time, anxiety was the loudest voice in my head. It pushed me to achieve and kept me going, but it also made me feel empty inside. When I started real healing, I noticed that I could use my experience to help others.

I found that the qualities anxiety gave me—like being aware, detail-oriented, and driven—are actually useful for leadership. By understanding my anxiety, I learned to support others facing similar struggles. The key was not letting anxiety lead me, but letting what I learned from it guide me to help others grow.

Examples Of Leadership Skills Developed Through Anxiety

Skill How Anxiety Helped Empathy Understanding others Problem-Solving Thinking ahead Attention to Detail Noticing small things

Reaching Inner Peace And Freedom

Finding freedom from anxiety wasn't just about fixing my thoughts. It was also about going deeper and healing old wounds from my past. I dedicated time to this process, which led to a real sense of peace.

Through patient and consistent work, I no longer felt controlled by fear. Instead, I became more present and calm. This was not a quick fix. It took trust, commitment, and letting go of always needing to be in control. The result has been a deeper sense of freedom—mentally and even spiritually.

Steps I Found Helpful:

• Letting go of old beliefs

• Trusting the healing process

• Staying patient with myself

Stories from Clients and Proof of Results

Moving Past Doubts

When I first meet new clients, many are not sure if real change is possible. Some are used to living with anxiety for years and don't think it can go away. I understand these doubts because I was once in their shoes.

One of my clients told me they thought my program would not work for them. They had tried therapy, seminars, and other tools before. Their anxiety would tell them, "This won't help." Over time, though, as they continued with the steps, they started to notice their thinking shift and hope returned.

Common client thoughts before starting:

Feeling Example Skepticism "This won't work for me." Frustration "I've already tried everything else." Uncertainty "Is it possible to actually live anxiety free?"

Taking Action Toward Real Change

I guide people through a simple, step-by-step process that I built from my own experience and the best parts of the programs I tried. It is an eight-week journey that helps clients understand where their anxiety started.

Key steps in my process:

• Identify root causes from childhood.

• Work week by week on building a new mindset.

• Practice daily self-awareness and self-kindness.

Clients often find that around week four, something clicks. They see they are making progress themselves, not just following my lead. This is when trust grows and the positive changes start to stick.

Real-Life Changes in Clients

Seeing clients change is the most rewarding part of my work. After finishing the program, many go from feeling stuck and fearful to feeling strong in their daily lives.

Some people say their relationships with family and coworkers improve. Others find they are able to take on challenges at work that they once avoided. I have watched clients become leaders and feel more like who they always wanted to be.

Personal wins clients often share:

• Able to handle stress without panic.

• Improved mood and better sleep.

• Feel more present and happier day to day.

Watching clients move from doubt to success motivates me to keep helping others find freedom from anxiety.

Creating a Life That Feels Complete and Balanced

Keeping Your Mind Healthy and Strong

Taking care of my mental health is as important as any job skill I have. I used to think anxiety was just part of life, but I learned that it doesn't have to be. For years, I tried to manage stress on my own and visited many therapists. It wasn't until I worked with a skilled coach that I discovered true change is possible.

Now, I focus on building a mindset that supports my well-being every day. For me, this means being aware of old habits that don't help and choosing new ways to respond to stress. Small actions, taken regularly, make a real difference in how I feel and think.

A simple checklist I use:

• Notice when anxiety appears

• Pause and question old fears

• Practice letting go of negative thoughts

• Focus on what I can control

Using New Skills in Everyday Situations

The tools I learned weren't just for therapy sessions—they became steps I use at work and at home. The biggest shift came from realizing it was up to me to keep practicing these skills daily.

Whether I'm facing a tough project or helping my family, I use what I learned to manage stressful moments. I check in with myself, stay mindful, and apply healthier thinking patterns. Over time, these steps became natural parts of my routine.

Here’s how I fit these habits into daily life:

Situation How I Respond Now Challenging meeting Take a deep breath, focus on facts Feeling worried Write down the worry, let it go Busy schedule Break tasks into small steps Helping a friend Listen without trying to fix

Uplifting Others in My Work Community

I believe in using my experience to make my workplace better for everyone. When I see others struggling with stress or doubt, I share what has helped me, always with respect and kindness.

Supporting my colleagues is not about giving advice they didn’t ask for. Instead, I listen, encourage their growth, and remind them that change is possible. By leading with empathy and sharing honest stories, I help build a more supportive community at work.

Ways I encourage others:

• Be open about my own journey with anxiety

• Offer support, not judgment

• Celebrate small successes together

• Help create an environment where mental health matters